A Journey of Life in the Womb- by Jill D. Chasse, MS, CHt
When tragedy strikes, people's stress levels elevate to a painful and unhealthy dimension. This stress not only affects adults and children living in this nightmare; an unborn baby can feel the grief and apprehension through his mother's emotions. This tiny child is just as vulnerable to the terror and shock during these tragic affairs and her emotions cannot be forgotten.
Throughout her pregnancy, a woman will experience joy, pain, hope and fear. Each one of these emotions is reflected to the child growing inside. Both by the chemicals her brain releases and the aura of her mood, a developing fetus directly experiences her mother's emotions.
It is important for a woman to acknowledge the fact that her baby is aware of and receptive to her moods. Emotions are heightened during pregnancy. A sad movie may cause hysterical tears, just as a silly joke may cause hilarious laughter. In the face of the recent tragedy, this is important to understand.
The nightmare o f September 11th caused much tears and pain. It put everyone in a heightened emotional state. A woman who is expecting may find herself in tears for no apparent reason through this trying time. This fear or sadness may come more often and more intensely that she expects. It is important to recognize this and cry. It will do the body worse to fight the emotions you feel. Do not deny the tears, but it is also vital that you seek some support during this distressing time. Talking to a counselor, friends, and family helps to make the reality more palpable and easier to deal with, especially with the already cryptic emotional reactions of pregnancy through the normal hormonal changes a woman experiences.
Finally, it is important to acknowledge the child inside. Long periods of sadness and depression can be just as unhealthy for baby as for mom. Talk to your child as issues arise and the time feels appropriate. Explain what is going on and why it makes you feel sad. Baby may not understand the details, but the tone of voice is soothing, the dedication to the child is important, and the understanding of your own emotions is a powerful healing too for both of you.
Take some time each day to recognize the good in your life. Count your blessings and share them with your baby. Just a little bit of joy can be quite contagious! Respect the sadness, grieve with a healthy mourning, but don't forget to celebrate the good. Your baby will feel your positive energy and grow in a healthy atmosphere.
We pray for our victims and heroes, but with our tears, we find new strength. Don't let our brand new little ones soak in the sorrow of this tragedy. Bless them with the joy of America's strength, patriotism and camaraderie. Celebrate Life.
Tragedy Strikes the Little Ones
With the current state of horror America has been in- we cannot forget that our unborn are affected too.
October 11, 2001
Prebirth Bonding- The Magical Link
Bonding with your child is very important. The time spent nursing, playing with, and
holding your newborn baby is significant, yet it is not the beginning of the bonding
Pre-birth bonding begins at the moment of conception. By the time most women
realize that they are pregnant, the baby's heart is already beating and his or her life
has begun. The very aura of your child inside your body sprouts a link between your child and yourself. This magical link can glow and flourish when fully recognized and experienced.
During your first trimester, you will be experiencing plenty of emotional ups and downs. You may have fear, excitement, irritability, and some new feelings that may even confuse or scare you. This is the time to reassure yourself that you are a healthy and happy person, and that you are blessed to have this little human being growing inside of you. It is also the time to begin talking to your baby. Reassure your child that he or she is loved. Be natural, calm, and honest. This is the very beginning and it is important to set the stage with positive emotions and feelings. These include feelings toward your baby, as well as feelings toward your own being.
Your child is incredibly receptive to your emotions. Navajo women are not even allowed to speak of bad things when they are pregnant because of the direct
negative impact it has on the baby. So, keep a happy thought in your mind and
heart. Converse with your child on a daily basis. Recognize the fact that he or she is
with you and is increasingly becoming aware of life.
The second trimester is an exciting time of visual growth and realization. You
actually "look" pregnant during this stage and may receive various comments from
the outside. Keep in mind that your baby is still the same little person you have
been communicating with and is just becoming more tangible. Begin singing and reading to your child. Make a time in your daily routine to spend solely with your baby. Sit in a rocking chair or in a special, comfortable seat and use that time to read your baby a happy story or sing a soothing lullaby. Continue this special time throughout your pregnancy and well into your infant's childhood. This special time will give you an escape from the pressures of the world, and an opportunity to build your relationship together.
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This page was last updated on: January 10, 2009
If you listen to your baby and be very quiet, you may "hear" your baby telling you something important."
Aviva Jill Romm, midwife
"A woman is the full circle, within her is the power - to create, nurture, and transform." Diane Mariechild